Archive for March, 2008

Yea Dad!

Posted in Uncategorized on March 30, 2008 by usgirls

Well, after years of doubting, and blaming I am super confident in my husbands’ desire to have kids NOW.  Y’see, it was a big deal before and after we got married.  Then when the time came to try, I couldn’t get preggers–ugggh.  Of course, I blamed this on my husband AND I often convinced myself we weren’t getting pregnant because he didn’t want it enough.

I KNOW that is AWFUL! Because of course people said that to me!

“Maybe, you aren’t ready,” or ” you don’t want it bad enough..” My mother often asks..

“Did you pray?”

Anyway, all my faults aside, I’m really happy I actually heard my hubbie say it- instead of me asking, “are you sure..”

OUr guest blogger, hasn’t made it yet, but she’ll be here soon.


Been away.

Posted in foster care, infertility, loss, worst comments contest with tags , , , , on March 29, 2008 by usgirls

Hey, I’ve been away for a few days.  Sorry, ’bout that.  I never got to separate the “loss” comments from the others, so  they are up with the others. Monday the contest will be officially over. Thanks again all!

The next post is  a guest comment  from my friend Megan.


New customized header!

Posted in Uncategorized on March 22, 2008 by usgirls

I got this photo from flickr. The person who makes these booties had a Creative Commons Licence that allows me to use it. She makes awesome booties check out her blog at

Dreams, Vibes and the end of the Worst Comments Contest

Posted in loss with tags , , , , on March 22, 2008 by usgirls

Well, lemme tell ya.  If I thought I was the only one feeling humiliated, and most of the time frustrated at people’s comments I truly know now that I am not alone. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with me and with the rest of the world.  The official rules stated that the contest was gonna go until March 30, but…

I had a bad dream–it was a doozy.  I am writing this minutes after waking.  I think reading all the ways we’ve been hurt has created a part of my brain that expects disappoinment in my friends and in the fertility process.  I don’t want that-I don’t want that for my readers either.

So… from now on, please go ahead and vote for the worst comments.  (Click “comments” in  “Worst Comments 2”  Which should be archived in March.

Oh yes, and the lost comments will be posted today, but I gotta warn you, don’t read those if you don’t  wanna be pissed all  day.  They’ll be in a “loss” category.

To encourage more hope please send in the best ways people have comforted you after, adoption, loss, or ongoing during your fertility struggles.  I will also be brightening up this blog!


Much Love

Posted in adoption, Family, foster care, hope, infertility, worst comments contest on March 18, 2008 by usgirls

I am shocked and appalled at the many ways people can show they are out of touch–Therefore, I propose a new simultaneous call for stories featuring actions that made you feel the MUCH LOVED as you became a foster care family, adopted a child, or have gone through the infertility wars.

As our worst comments contest continues, we will have stories of much love too!

Comment Contest

Posted in Uncategorized on March 17, 2008 by usgirls

Wow, the 2nd round of comments is proving to be a goldmine!  If you don’t see your comment yet, I’m trying to organize them all.  I’ll try to have them all organized by 11:00 p.m. EST.

Warning: If you’re not in the mood to laugh (at stupidity) or just join in group anger for a while then  DO NOT READ THE COMMENTS.  Also, I will arrange comments about loss, in a separate folder or whatever, so that one just doesn’t spring up on you.  Some of the loss comments can just bring you down.

BUT–I’m all about lifting us up too.  The goal of the contest is to rally around this thing we understand that other people don’t.

Oh yeah, on more thing, please feel free to reply with support to bloggers who’ve entered the contest–we need it!

Worst Comments Contests 2

Posted in worst comments contest with tags on March 16, 2008 by usgirls

Ok, I’m trying again. The deadline is March 30. This month I’ll send the winner one of those fizzy bath balls.